"You're married now... So when's the baby due?!"

I was chatting to a group of ladies the other day about one of them being a grandmother and someone said "you don't want to leave it too late, you really shouldn't leave it too late" to me, and several people agreed with her. I know people mean well but they don't think before they speak.

As soon as we got married (within moments, it feels) we were bombarded with... "So you're going to have kids now?!" 

First of all - who says we can have children? There are many people out there who are not lucky enough to be able to conceive, who's to say we won't be one of those couples?? It's not a given right to all humans to be able to reproduce. Second of all - let me get my wedding dress off first and finish the cake!! It's all a whirl-wind when you get married, and you don't want the bubble pierced by thoughts of what you don't have - only of the wonderful things you do.

We talk about having a child quite frequently and both know we'd like one one day, and hope this happens for us and our dream comes true. My husband would most definitely make an amazing father. 

I was thinking - before and after the lady made her quite insensitive comment - maybe we should have thought about it earlier in life. When I really think, though, I have no regrets. I thoroughly enjoyed my early 20s of club-stumbling, alcopop-glugging, Candy-dancing, mini-skirt-strutting, indulgent date nights and early hours Macdonalds trips! I wouldn't change those years and experiences for the world! (As discussed in previous blog post How Things Changed) 

Saying that, the choice between a night out Vs a cosy night in watching addictive TV - the sofa wins every time nowadays! Unless there's food involved - always food wins haha!

I know I wouldn't have visited New York for my 21st birthday, Milan, Dublin, Egypt, several Greek Islands, Brighton and all the luxurious spa breaks I have had the good fortune to have experienced if I'd had a child back then. 

I'm not judging people who have a child younger than I am, nor am I judging people who wait til they're older. I know so many people perfectly happy - and that's the main thing in life - happiness. I am simply self-analysing and realising that everything happens for a reason - and I am content and happy that it's not been right for me in the past... But hopefully the future will lead to us having our dream come true.