"You're married now... So when's the baby due?!"

I was chatting to a group of ladies the other day about one of them being a grandmother and someone said "you don't want to leave it too late, you really shouldn't leave it too late" to me, and several people agreed with her. I know people mean well but they don't think before they speak.

As soon as we got married (within moments, it feels) we were bombarded with... "So you're going to have kids now?!" 

First of all - who says we can have children? There are many people out there who are not lucky enough to be able to conceive, who's to say we won't be one of those couples?? It's not a given right to all humans to be able to reproduce. Second of all - let me get my wedding dress off first and finish the cake!! It's all a whirl-wind when you get married, and you don't want the bubble pierced by thoughts of what you don't have - only of the wonderful things you do.

We talk about having a child quite frequently and both know we'd like one one day, and hope this happens for us and our dream comes true. My husband would most definitely make an amazing father. 

I was thinking - before and after the lady made her quite insensitive comment - maybe we should have thought about it earlier in life. When I really think, though, I have no regrets. I thoroughly enjoyed my early 20s of club-stumbling, alcopop-glugging, Candy-dancing, mini-skirt-strutting, indulgent date nights and early hours Macdonalds trips! I wouldn't change those years and experiences for the world! (As discussed in previous blog post How Things Changed) 

Saying that, the choice between a night out Vs a cosy night in watching addictive TV - the sofa wins every time nowadays! Unless there's food involved - always food wins haha!

I know I wouldn't have visited New York for my 21st birthday, Milan, Dublin, Egypt, several Greek Islands, Brighton and all the luxurious spa breaks I have had the good fortune to have experienced if I'd had a child back then. 

I'm not judging people who have a child younger than I am, nor am I judging people who wait til they're older. I know so many people perfectly happy - and that's the main thing in life - happiness. I am simply self-analysing and realising that everything happens for a reason - and I am content and happy that it's not been right for me in the past... But hopefully the future will lead to us having our dream come true.

Heavenly Honeymoon Hunt

One of the biggest decisions for us at the moment is... Where to go on our honeymoon!

I said a while ago that the longer time passes after the nuptials, the less bothered I am about going on a honeymoon. I stand by that really, but recently I've been feeling a little down and having something to look forward to seems sensible! 

So, I think the problem is, I built it right up in my head that the honeymoon has to be different from every other holiday - more amazing, more stunning, more beautiful, out of this world, luxurious and totally exotic! I seem to forget it's really just a holiday. That it doesn't overly matter how perfect it is - I'll be with my husband! 

We visited a travel agent and sat in there for 90 minutes then went home to continue our search on the internet.

I am restricted to school holidays. We would like to go for a whole fortnight so that leaves us with the summer holiday really. That eradicates the idea of the Caribbean - hurricane season!

As I say - I picture a stunning scenery, and for some reason I picture it just being us two walking through quaint (possibly cobbled) streets filled with cute lil boulangeries and authentic restaurants. I don't picture the usual inflatable-filled swimming pool and tourist-heavy streets you get on 'normal' holiday. I'd like it to feel secluded and lush. Hey, a girl can dream, right?

The cobbled streets of Rhodes Town

Santorini and Mykonos were strong favourites, but we soon discovered Santorini is way out of our price range if we were to stay in half decent (above 2 star rating) accommodation. So, Mykonos it is, you could be forgiven for thinking. That's what we thought also. We searched and searched and every hotel in our price range doesn't have a swimming pool. We are both lazy loungers on sun holidays - we eat, we laze, we swim, we dry off in the sun, we eat, we laze, we swim, we dry off, we get dressed up then guess what - we eat again!

So, you can see why a lovely swimming pool is kinda a necessity for us (along with some decent eateries!) Oh and an infinity pool would be nice!

Back to the drawing board it is then!

In an ideal world, we would love to go to somewhere as exotic as Hawaii or Mauritius but I don't think we'll be able to. We asked for donations to our honeymoon fund instead of gifts for those who wanted to bring something to celebrate our wedding. I don't think it helps that we spent about a third of that fund on a new oven and fridge-freezer but that's what being a grown-up is all about! 

I'd love to hear of any honeymoon, or even just luscious holidays any of you have been on... And for now, as my mum would say "happy hunting!" 

 Santorini infinity pool - what a view! (photo courtesy of Boomsbeat.com)