Our honeymoon period began around September 2010... And is still going! We are about as 'soppy' now as when we first got together! That's just the way we are, why do things apart when you can do them together? We enjoy talking about the same things and going to the same places. We enjoy the same film genres, restaurants and pastimes. He is my best friend, the person at the top of my Calls list (2nd to my mum of course - I am a girl after all!) when I feel oh so alone in the world, or let down by someone else's actions or words, he's there. My constant. My shield.
Since becoming an official couple, we have been fortunate enough to visit Crete, Egypt several times, Spain, Rhodes, Kefalonia, Santorini & stayed in the May Fair Hotel in London.
We've experienced things I personally had never, before him. Foods I had never even thought of, restaurants I would have not felt I 'deserved' to eat in, films I'd previously not come across.
He's opened up my world so much, and with that comes contentment as a couple. We decide what we are doing together, and we enjoy doing it together.
We got married in August 2014, and started trying for a baby in December 2014. We'd, like most couples, had countless discussions leading up to this monumental decision. He'd said, once we'd moved in together (October 2013) that he could be ready. Well, I put him straight right away!! He'd proposed 3 weeks before we moved out so I had a wedding dress to fit into in 10 month's time , there was no way I was risking that not fitting by getting pregnant!!
From my experience, the man is ready before us, and why should that not be the case?! As I pointed out to him on more than one occasion - your body, job & life in general doesn't change half as much as it would for me!
We started trying in the December, after lots of chats. We knew we wanted a honeymoon at some point but weren't particularly bothered about when - we would work it round a pregnancy. We booked our honeymoon to Santorini several months later, and enjoyed a fortnight of adventures in August 2015.
In this time, we thought we would be pregnant. Every month, you know how it is, crushed us.
But, did it?? Yes, internally, a part of us is missing. We each have a hole; a space inside, that we desperately want to fill. But - we've had - and are still experiencing our amazing honeymoon period. Currently, we're on 6 years of honeymoon period and hopefully have many more years to come. Yes we thought we would have a child of our own by now - we could have had as old as a 10 month old by now!
Has this forced wait cemented our relationship to the extent very little other obstacles would? Certainly.
Have we had different adventures to those we would have if we'd got pregnant within 21 months?? I'd say so.
Have we been able to have a long, fun-filled honeymoon period? Definitely.
Have we got to know each other better than ever in the 3 years we've lived together, and the two we've been married? Yes.
We have spent quality time together just us two, then 5 years into our relationship we got a lil puppy. Who taught us something I think we already knew; to succeed, we must stick together. We must be a team. Whether we have children or not, we must be a unit.
I feel so happy to have been given this extended opportunity (which is of course, possibly a permanent opportunity for us) to have real quality time just him and I; our unexpected honeymoon period.
Xxxx
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